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Written By: Casey Sharperson
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Sliding into DMs (Direct Message for those wondering) is a thing. It’s referenced in song after song. Yet many [Christians] wonder if it truly is a feasible option to garner dates or if it’s just a means for a quick hookup. While it’s a debated topic, for the sake of this post let’s proceed with the thought that DMs really are a legit way to meet someone.

Why?
Options. Just about everyone is online. This means there’s an entire world outside of your immediate circle. (shocker) We’re a social age, why not let Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook be the vehicles God uses to be your matchmaker?

Now that you’re open, here are 3 ways to attract the right DMs. While these tips apply to both men and women, ladies, let the man pursue you!

Show your personality – Your social media is your opportunity for people and potential dates to get a snapshot of your life and your perspective. When people click on your profile, how do you come across? Feel free to ask your friends, coworkers, or community this question. What would they think about you, if they didn’t know you? If you love traveling, do you post about it? If you enjoy sports, is that portrayed? If you’re into social change, post it!
Be authentic – Don’t fall victim to the idea that you have to post certain things ust to attract a certain type of person. Folks are perceptive and can tell when you’re false advertising. What’s worse is when someone does approach you and realizes that you’re a completely different person offline than you are online. Let’s stop trying to be perfect and just be real. (That’s a word!)
Post Publically – Yeah, you may want to keep your page and your posts private from your grandma or employer, but private pages don’t get views. You know, after meeting, one of the first things that people do is check their social media. What if you’re tagged in bomb photos but your potential future date can’t click on your handle to see more? Just something to consider…

Think of your social media as your online dating profile/resume for whoever wants to find you. When it’s a reflection of who you truly are, chances are high that you will attract someone who’s interested in the real you. Remember, Colossians 3:17 NIV says, “And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father”.

Let’s talk about it. Leave a comment about your DM experiences. Have they been positive, negative, poppin, or dry?

5 Ground Rules for Money Management

From the desk of the Modern Day Cindi:
One of the core values of a healthy marriage should include healthy finances. Even more importantly, although the marital bed should be kept warm and undefiled, it can indeed become cold, unsafe and distant—the space between spouses during times of financial unrest can feel like a deep, dark, bleak abyss.
Of course, the coolness of the mattress can happen for several reasons, but studies have shown that increasing distance between spouses is often due to the misunderstanding or misalignment of goals and/or intentions of how to manage current and future uses of money in the household. And this, by far, could be one of the worst things that could happen in the marital bed.
When I first got married, money was consistently at the center of most discussions. Whether in agreement or working through differing views, the discussion of finances never went away…in fact, the conversations became more and more detailed as each of us had to peel back layers of who we were to come to a common understanding that created a workable foundation.
During those communications, I learned that it was important to set ground rules so that the frustration around the money pot would not taint the sweetness of the honey pot. Here are a few of those ground rules:
Ground Rule #1: Transparency is key
Have open and honest communication. No Secrets! Be honest about your past and current state financially including salary/income, number of bills, outstanding debt, etc.
Ground Rule #2: Create a safe space
the environment should be such that it is easier to discuss finances and possible past mismanagement so that neither or either spouse feels condemned, judged, or alone.
Ground Rule #3: Never stop communicating
Have the hard conversations, not only the easy ones, but the tough ones as well. These talks should occur frequently and early on in the relationship.
Ground Rule #4: Establish roles and responsibilities early-
lean on the stronger partner. For purposes of this discussion, stronger does not mean better or more dominant, it just means the person who is more equipped. If you are that spouse, be able to give without regret or retreat. In the event neither is capable, it is wise to enlist the help of a financial advisor, especially to manage the collective goals of the household.
Remember, the collective goals should also align with individual goals because a house divided against itself cannot stand.
Ground Rule #5: Have a game plan and revisit it often.
It is not enough to have good intentions, but it is best to create a plan together and work on it as a team (this includes prioritization of uses of money and paying off debt). Make the discussions fun and be realistic about the goals that are set. Establish milestones and designate celebrations for reaching goals.
Final thoughts: Our past and everything that was attached to it (and us) comes up when we get married—Our finances, financial practices and preferences, as well as our personalities including pride, rebellion, insecurity, lack of prioritization, being disorganized, family teachings, etc. are not exempt.
Know this: Management of finances can reflect who you are, where you are from, and what you value. Therefore, as a commitment to the marital covenant, value, protect and nurture this part of the marriage as an equally important component of establishing a partnership pleasing unto God. And again remember, a house divided against itself cannot stand.