I want to begin this article off with a bible verse to help lay a foundation…’
1 Corinthians 7:4, “The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.”
Sex within marriage is a GIFT from God! Unfortunately, the enemy has taken this gift and distorted it.
In today’s world ladies there are so many things vying for your husbands attention. In no way did God create you to ever have to compete with a woman on a computer screen, the actresses on TV, or models in magazines.
But, the reality is that the access to pornographic material and the exposure of women’s bodies today is becoming more and more of a problem than ever before.
This is why God said in 1 Corinthians 7:9 that is much better to marry than burn with lust.
I know you may get tired of your husband asking for sex, but PLEASE hear me when I say this…that is a GOOD sign! If you’re husband is asking you for sex, then that means he is running to you to meet his needs rather than something or someone else.
This should make you happy, not upset!
Sex is the greatest opportunity to serve your spouse in a selfless way, and the same for your spouse to do for you.
Men and women may see sex completely different, but that’s the beauty of how God designed us in order for us to WORK AT becoming one in our mind and bodies.
I want to help you by sharing with you the 5 Things Your Husband Really Wants in the Bedroom:
1. He Wants You to be Open to Try New Things
Now, I am a firm believer that you should never do anything in the bedroom that one person doesn’t agree with. It doesn’t matter what it is. The marriage bed is a place of unification, not pressure to perform. At that same token, a lot of times its easy for us to stay in a box and not be open to trying new things that could very well spice things up.
One thing me and my wife did that helped us change the norm in our sex life was changed our locations in the house that we had sex. Your husband wants you to be open to try new things, or at least open to discuss it.
2. He Wants You to Let Him Pleasure You
There is nothing better for your husband than knowing you are being pleased by him. This is one of the greatest man moments for your husband, so you not only should let him pleasure you, but also tell him when he is doing a good job. Verbal communication is huge for men so they know how they are doing.
For some women that have come from abusive relationships or a hurtful past, it can be challenging to allow yourself be fully loved by your husband. You have to let him in and trust him as your best friend, lover, and confidant. This can take time, but your husband is God’s gift to you to help you through this process.
One of the great scriptures that highlights God’s desire for men to enjoy their wives body is found in Proverbs 5:18, “May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you ALWAYS be captivated by her love.”
3. He Wants You to Desire Him
Men want to be desired just as much as you want to be loved. This is a huge part of having a healthy sex life before you get to the bedroom. The build up phase to a great time of intimacy is built up by little signs of desire.
Just how you desire the text messages, help around the house, and special date nights alone which all communicate to you that your husband desires you, your husband desires the same. For him its more communicated through flirting through physical touch at random moments, putting on that outfit that makes him look twice when you wear it, or just letting him know how much he rocks your world.
4. He Wants You to Want It Too
Your husband wants you to want to have sex as well. I know it is much harder for a woman to experience an orgasm than a man, but this is why it requires teamwork.
Communicate to your husband what you like or desire so you can make your times of intimacy just as pleasing for you as it is for him. Your husband wants you to be their desiring the sex just as much as he does.
God’s word is clear that sex is the tool to bring two people closer together than any other force on Earth. This is not done without work, investment, time, patience, and a lot of love!
Be committed to serve your spouse no matter the cost, and I guarantee when you both are embracing that mentality then your times of intimacy will be the most desired times of your day.
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