What I Wish I Would Have Known Prior to Marriage

Entering into my third year of marriage and having the opportunity to speak, encourage and minister to singles on a daily and weekly basis. I have come to the realization that if I had the info that I have now per how to “Become the One” for my future spouse, there would have been two areas in which I would have put more energy, prayer and time into. I pray these areas encourage you to dig a little deeper and get guidance in if you are lacking any!

Healing Of Your Soul– This is an area in which I wish I would have taken the time to get healing in.Your soul is comprised of your mind, will and emotions. So much of who we are is effected by what has taken place in these three areas of our soul. In each area we should strive to get healing and restoration in if we are lacking wholeness. How do you know if you are lacking wholeness in your soul? You have no peace, you’re bitter, angry, you lack love, are insecure, selfish, you lack identity and purpose. These are just a few roots in which you will recognize if you are in need of healing in your soul. Once I got married, I realized that I had not taken a season to really dig into the deep issues of my heart to receive insight, wisdom and healing to help me become aware and even more sensitive to the season in which I was in so that I could be a better helpmate for my spouse. Psalms 50:15 “And call upon me in the day of trouble: I will deliver thee, and thou shalt glorify me.

Mentorship– Mentorship was a foreign word to me when I was unmarried. I was brought up in a community in which it was not truly seen as being necessary or imperative for healthy development per becoming a whole woman both spiritually and naturally. I look back at my season of preparation and I see that if I had someone in my life who was successful in an area in which I desired to grow and mature in, I would have excelled both spiritually and naturally. It is necessary for you to have someone who is able to see the potential in you when you do not see it. Someone who is called to you, your life and season! 1 Thessalonians 2:8 “So, being affectionately desirous of you, we were ready to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own selves, because you had become very dear to us.

Even though I lacked the “fullness” of these two areas prior to marriage, God has remained faithful and has allowed me to walk through deliverance and be surrounded by amazing mentors and women who exemplify and exude grace, beauty and power! So if you are married it is not too late to walk in WHOLENESS and for God to bring you a mentor who will push you in more ways than one! If you are unmarried really ask the Lord to bring healing to your mind, will and emotions and pray for the Lord to send you a woman or man who will help pray, push and accelerate you into your God given purpose.