Top Reason Why Young Marriages Fail

And they lived happily ever after…. We all know how the Disney fairytales go. Boy falls in love with girl. He does what it takes to win her. She falls madly in love with him, and then they live happily ever after.
From a young age, we are programmed to believe that once we fall in love and get married we will live happily ever after, and this could very well be true, but we go into marriage thinking our “happily ever after” will come that easy.
We don’t realize that marriage is more than a beautiful wedding and a gorgeous ring. We don’t realize that marriage takes WORK. We don’t realize that the happily ever after doesn’t just happen. We must create it.
A successful marriage is composed of two people making an effort to make their marriage work. I think many marriages fail because we go into marriage naïve and think that it will be easy and when the first sign of adversity happens we just let it go. Our culture has programmed us to just throw in the towel when something gets hard, and I believe this is why the divorce rate is so high.
On top of that, society tells us that the younger we are when we get married, the harder the marriage will be and the possibility of divorce is higher.

In my life I’ve found that being married and young isn’t the issue, being married and young-minded is.

A young-minded person goes into marriage with a selfish, “it’s all about me” mindset. A young-minded person runs from dealing with tough issues and gives up when things are hard or when things don’t go his/her way. There are adults 40+ years old who have a younger mindset than that of a 25 year old.
I don’t think age is the reason why divorces happen or the reason why a marriage would be easier or harder. Maturity, will, determination, and a mindset that truly believes in “’til death do us part” determines whether a marriage will be successful or not.
Divorce is easy. Marriage is hard. Being married takes two strong people who make a vow to each other that no matter how hard it gets they will be there right by each other’s side.
So when things get hard in your marriage challenge yourself to remember the vow you made to each other on your wedding day. You didn’t get married just to get divorced.
If you are single and want to be married one day, think about your mindset now. Are you selfish? Do you hold grudges? If so, challenge yourself to change. Trust me, it can be done. I was once a very selfish person, but with Christ, I was able to change. You can too!