These Folks Ain't Loyal: The Truth about Cheating

It seems like I’ve talked more about relationships in the past 2 months than I have in my entire life. And what is everyone searching for?…Loyalty.
Something everybody wants, but none of us have absolutely mastered. I believe most of us desire to be loved by someone who can love us the same way that we love them. As a matter of fact, one of the worst feelings in the world is when you realize that someone doesn’t share the same desire for you, as you do for them.
But what I find the most interesting about all of this, is that oftentimes we don’t live up to our own expectations. We’re flaky and inconsistent when it comes to our commitments, our work and our relationships.
God has been dealing with me recently on the level of “Personal Responsibility”. It’s so easy to point the finger at the other person when you breakup because “they cheated”, But did you realize that the
Top 3 desires to “CHEAT” stem from:
1. A desire to feel “special”
2. Feelings of neglect or being taken for granted
3. Dissatisfaction with his/her partner
Now I’m not in any way condoning cheating or infidelity, but I am saying that we must take an account of our “Personal Responsibility” as it relates to CAUSE and EFFECT. If you get fired from your job and it’s your 5th job this year, it may not be the boss or your mean coworker.
It just may be you. Yes, it could be that she’s a nagger and has trust issues…OR it could be that you keep doing stupid things and your Facebook/Instagram friends are suspect.
Ultimately what I’m getting at, is that in order for us to properly qualify ourselves for what we desire in our relationships, we must first make sure that we embody those things ourselves. (See Romans 2:21-23)
Scripture also tells us in Proverbs 18:22 that, “He who finds a wife, finds a good thing…” and then goes on into Proverbs 31 to tell men exactly what that wife looks like!
Oh wait, let me guess….you thought Proverbs 31 was for the WOMEN?! No sir! Proverbs 31 is the advice to King Lemuel from HIS MOTHER on what a Wife of Noble Character looks like.
In other words, King Lemuel’s mother was advising him on the type of traits that a good wife should have, not just so that he could find a good wife, but so that he could prepare himself to be the right husband to that kind of wife!
Proverbs 31:28, “Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.” 
– Verse 30-31, “30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be  praised. 31 Give her the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates.”
The last instruction from King Lemuel’s mother was on how to properly honor his wife. And I can’t help but think that her wisdom knew the things that we are still talking about today.
Loyalty starts with GOD and continues through YOU…and if you want to receive anything in a relationship, you should make sure that you are already lavishly giving those things out of Love.
This is how our Father chooses to Love us! He never waits on us to make the first move, but always pours himself out before us so that we may Behold his lovingkindness. At the end of the day, even our Best is as ‘filthy rags’ in comparison to God; and His Loyalty surpasses all of my personal efforts, (seeEph.3:14-19 & Hebrews 13:5)  yet I still do my best to give Him what He is deserving of. He is Forever Worthy…