Being married now for four years I have noticed a common theme between the different seasons my husband and I go through. No matter what our current life looks like at any given time it can easily be evaluated by the goals, or lack of goals we have.
When my husband and I are not working towards a common goal, or personal goals, life quickly seems more difficult. And, when we are intentionally setting goals for our marriage and our lives, it doesn’t seem to matter what we are facing because we are doing it together.
We haven’t always learned this the easy way though. When you are married and young you are bringing together two young individuals who typically have a burning passion to succeed in their own life. When you marry someone with similar goals as you it can still be hard at first to understand that unless your goals involve one another it will be difficult to become “one”.
Don’t get me wrong, you can certainly have your own personal goals and different careers. What I am saying is that no matter what you are pursuing as an individual you need to keep your spouse at the forefront of that goal.
For example, if you are striving to build your career to support your family- great! But, it is critical to remember that all that hard work and success will mean nothing if you push your marriage and family to the side while you climb to the top.
You CAN, however work hard to accomplish your individual goals and find even greater success when you allow your spouse to come alongside of you and contend for the same end goal.
My husband is an extremely driven man. And, I am highly motivated by defined goals. So, together we have learned that no matter how small or big our goals are, in every season of our lives we need to have some kind of common goal. Whether that be to relax more or work harder, if we don’t know what we are striving to accomplish in the current moment we slowly start to drown in the chaos of life.
I want to encourage you today to sit down with your spouse and talk about the goals you have individually and together. I believe it is every couples goal to thrive, but you need to have specific goals in each season of your marriage in order to make that happen.
It doesn’t matter how big or small your goal is.
It doesn’t matter if your goal is for your career, personal relationships, or your marriage.
All that matters is that you and your spouse come together in unity and work towards the same thing – together!
Be blessed today knowing God has given you someone to help your conquer your destiny! And, know that you play a vital role in the success of your partner as well! Now, go set some goals!
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