When someone is running for political office you will hear the candidate declare they will do better than the current office holder. They say things like, “I will make the military stronger,” implying of course that the current person has made it weaker. They also say they will bring back jobs, make America safer, care about people more, etc.
The same thing happens when people apply for a new job. They say they are going to perform better than the previous leader did in their position.
In both of the situations above, it may be true.
They might do more than the previous person.
What if you died and a new Hot Shot husband took your place?
What would he do differently than you?
How would he treat your wife differently?
A.W. Tozer was a man of deep faith and conviction. After he passed away, his wife said, “A. W. loved Jesus Christ, but Leonard Odam (her new husband) loves me.”
As I read this, I am not shocked by the indictment that statement brings to the way A.W. loved his wife. Instead, I look at my own life. My own marriage. I know I need to do more.
A.W. had a “Hot Shot” husband come and take his spot as his wife’s husband. From the book A Passion for God, it looks like he lacked in many ways in his marriage.
I see the same things lacking in my own life.
What can you do to make sure some hot shot husband does not come into your marriage after you pass away? How can you be the hot shot husband to your wife right now? Here are 4 things to consider:
1. Go Overboard With Winning Her Heart
A hot shot husband would come in and do whatever it takes to win her heart—every day! He would not have the attitude that they have been together for X years and so she doesn’t need the energy she first received from him. The hot shot husband attitude would be that he only has so many years with her on planet Earth and he wants her to know she is the focus of his attention.
2. Monthiversary
A hot shot husband would ditch just celebrating the yearly anniversary. He would make every month, on the day of their anniversary, a day he would do something special for her. Why not start doing this starting this month?
3. 99% Encouragement
A hot shot husband would spend 99% of his time speaking life over his wife. He would be generous with his prayers, his encouragement, and his life-giving words.
4. He Would Medicate His Wife
The Bible says that laughter does good like medicine. The hot shot husband would provide opportunities to laugh with his wife. Whether is it watching videos like this to her, talking about funny situations in your lives, or telling jokes, the hot shot husband would know that the couple that laughs together stays together.
To be a hot shot husband has nothing to do with your wife. You are the one that determines to be the hot shot husband to your wife. You are the one that has to deny your slothful, lazy, and unproductive ways.
Guys, we can do this.
We can be the hot shot husband that our wives married.
Start now!
Question: What is one thing you need focus more on that a hot shot husband would do immediately if you died and he married your wife?