A few weeks ago I decided to take a stroll down memory lane, reflecting on all my past relationship/situationships. As I struggled to recall details of past relationships, I realized “God favored me”. I, like most people, have dealt with situations that had the potential to leave me deep in a depression, with low self-esteem, and perhaps even suicidal.
But some how, I escaped with small traces of low-self esteem and a tad bit of sadness, which faded away with time.
Reflecting on this, I thought I’d share how I got over the ones who left me:
1. Make Up Your Mind!
The bible lets us know that a double minded man is unstable in all his ways! You have to make a decision that you are done, and refuse to go back. It’s simple, either you are completely done or you’re not. If you’re not, stop reading (lol).
2. Eliminate All Means of Communication.
Nope, you can’t be friends. Sorry! In this stage of vulnerability, it’s imperative that you separate yourself. With one ex, I actually deleted my twitter because it’s origin was to keep an eye on him. I brought a new phone because we used BBM a lot, and I blocked his post from my newsfeed on FB.
I was hopeful that one day we could be friends, so I didn’t want to defriend him totally. Don’t accept the phone call or text. Communication is a way of keeping your heart involved, even when you think you aren’t.
3. Worship.
Worship is the BEST way to turn your heart towards God. Spending time with the mender of broken hearts will ensure the pain eventually fades.
4. Pray.
Duh, right! But many can’t pray effective prayers because they haven’t made a decision (see point 1). I would encourage whomever this blog is for to pray this, or a similar prayer: “Lord, clear my mind of every negative memory and remove every spiritual attachment. In my experience, these are the two areas that are the most haunting.
5. TURN UP!
Well, not literally! Turn up as in, enjoy life! Time waits for no man; therefore, you cant afford to spend a day, a week, or even a year in sadness. The more time you waste, the less effective you are in moving the cross. I don’t know about you, but I would rather move mountains for the one who gave his WHOLE life for me than waste precious time dwelling on the one who left!
I hope I haven’t given the impression that getting over someone you genuinely loved is as easy as 1,2,3 because its not. On the other hand, with God nothing is impossible!
XOXO,
Shannon C Colar
Lovebyencouragement.com