There are many women that desire to be in a relationship. Yet, they are still single. The man of your prayers will not magically appear before you at the altar. You have to be willing to position yourself to be found.
Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.
The definition of find is to discover (something or someone) without planning or trying to. The man that God has for you can’t discover you if you aren’t in position to be found. Your home isn’t a place of position, it’s more a place of comfort. Get up and get out of the house!
We are way too old to be playing the hide and seek game. If you desire a mate, allow God to position you to be found. If you’re not in the right position you will miss the opportunity to be found by your future mate.
Many times we are distracted by temporary people or even things. I often see many women posting on Facebook about their single season. Facebook posts will not put you in a better position to be found by him. You have to be in a place that shows that you’re available and even interested in dating.
That doesn’t mean be thirsty and expose yourself to men to be seen. Position yourself with dignity and class. The best posture to be found by your mate is serving the LORD. It is at the moment that you are serving God and his people you will be in right place at the right time to be found.
Don’t be afraid of rejection – it happens. When you allow God to direct your path to be positioned properly, rejection will not occur as often and you will know that the right man when he approaches you. He will be everything you prayed for and much more.
I will leave you with this… I prayed to God to send me a man of God that was on fire for him, that would love me and my children unconditionally. I prayed for a man that would pray for me and with me. I prayed about several things that I wanted in a Godly man according to the word of God.
You will know when you meet the right one because your spirit will leap with joy. I came in contact with a few people while single but my spirit didn’t leap when I interacted with them. They didn’t line up with my prayers or even the word of God. So, I kept it moving.
I continued to serve God and one day I looked up and saw the most handsome man that I’d ever seen on earth. My spirit leaped with joy and I knew it was something different about him. Well, I approached him and introduced myself. No harm in that ladies. After, that I went before the Lord and sought his counsel for my life. I needed to know if this was the one that God had for me. Sure enough God answered and said “It’s him!”
I said all that to say, be intentional about your relationship with Jesus Christ. Stay in communication with him always. The more you talk to God, he will position you so that he can bless you with the desires of your heart, according to his plan for your life. When you are positioned by God, you will be found by the right one that he purposely designed just for you.
14 replies on “Position Yourself to be Found”
This was a great article!!!!!!! Alot of times in this singleness time it can feel like your totally helpless lol it can feel like what else can I do to help myself in this……the article answered this question for me
Awesome!!!! I pray that God give you the desires of your heart!!!
I enjoyed this article, very insightful and directs you to the kind of prayer you ought to be making.
I laughed at the idea of staying at home and waiting to be found. I think that is so common, well in my case anyway. In some cases we become so spiritual and we forget that we actually need to put in work. A Man of God once said ” Staying at home and waiting to be found is like setting up a market stall in your room and expecting customers to find the products in your room”.
I agree with Jess’s comment above, you just feel helpless sometimes. There really isn’t a manual to do this. I’ve learnt, in everything -Trust God!
Blessings.
Thank you for reading my article. I laughed at the statement that the man of God made. But we have to accept the fact that it’s true. I speak blessings over you and your family.
This cleared up some thoughts I was having about where to meet our soul mates. While serving in church we put ourselves in the best position to be found. Lol love that, thank you!
To God be the glory!!! I speak blessings over you and your family.
Hey Calandra. I loved your article. I’m currently in the process of what I like to call “letting the pursuit go”. I typically have a tendency to approach a guy I’m interested in, or make alot of the first moves and just kind of allow myself to be vulnerable, but I’ve been learning that the guy is suppose to be the one doing the finding and putting forth that effort for me. So I just have a question about when you said you introduced yourself…did he follow up with you & begin making the moves after that like asking for your number, showing interest, trying to get to know you ect., or did you have to get the wheels turning? I’ve faced tons of rejection trying to make things happen with people to the point where I’m ready to just be still & wait on God. I guess I’m still trying to learn how to act during this season. Whenever I see someone with potential now, I don’t say anything. I’ve concluded that if he were interested, he’d approach me, but idk if my thinking is flawed lol I’m not afraid of rejection, but “he who finds a wife” right
Hi! Thanks for reading the article. I just simply said hello and told him my name. We did exchange numbers based on a common interest in ministry. After that we were just friends a church. I began to pray and God revealed to me that he was the one. After that he pursued me and we’ve been together ever since. I use to be the pursuer in all my relationships. God dealt with me on that very issue. When he brought us together, God got all the glory because I did more praying than talking. There’s nothing wrong with saying hello, my name is. I wouldn’t walk up to a guy and say I want to date you or I’m available. If you feel a leap in your spirit that he may be the one – I would be constant prayer. God will speak to you. Let me know if you have any other questions.
Thank you!!! This really did help!
Hello… I want to say thank you for all the post and your time you take to help singles like me walk in successful through our waiting period. I did purchase the book and I can’t wait to get it in the mail. I do have a question though. I saw the gentleman at a church conference about 2 years ago. He was on the praise and worship team. He is was a member of our mother church. He has since then been installed as a pastor at another church but I still see him from time to time at different conferences. My first encounter with him was like someone knocked the wind out of me and every time I see him I get this feeling in my belly almost like when Mary and Elizabeth met and the baby Leaped in her stomach feeling and I would go in the other direction because I’m so nervous. I have such strong feelings for him. I pray and I keep a journal of everything. There is so much to this story to share here but I feel in my heart of hearts he is the one but the trouble is he doesn’t really know I how I feel.. He lives 2 hours away, we are friends on facebook. what would be your advise on this. I am a minister as well just want to do what is right and I know that is waiting on God but need some other insight but my own. Help!
Hello!! Thanks for reading the article. Great question to ask. I will be writing an article about this soon to help others in the waiting season. When you think about the story of Mary and Joseph. God revealed to Mary that she was going to have a son and his name would be Jesus. God revealed to Mary but he also revealed the same thing to Joseph. If your spirit is leaping because you feel this man is the one. You must go to God in prayer and seek his face and make sure this is the Holy Spirit directing your path and not your feelings. Believe me when I say that if he is the one that God will reveal it to him and you. Don’t get ahead of God in this process. Pray and trust God only!
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