I use to be the woman that would pursue men for a relationship. I would call them and make it known that I wanted to date them. Of course, they said YES. Not long after I would see that I was the one doing all the pursuing, footing the bill, and still lonely. Just to show the world I had a man. I settled for less because I couldn’t see how blessed I really was.
I was in a vulnerable place because I didn’t truly know my identity. I was longing from something from these men that they couldn’t give me. In the process I was left wide open and allowed men to be plugged into me that shouldn’t have been.
I allowed these men to be plugged into me emotionally, spiritually and sexually. They were draining my power. Because I wasn’t grounded in the word of God at the time , I was dying. They were taking all my energy.
I shared that to say, single women should pursue God only. Never purse a man. As you can see in my case of pursuing a man it caused me to die in the process.
We as godly women are in covenant relationship with God. He covers us as we pursue Him daily. The purpose we have on the inside of us has to be covered by God so that no one can tamper with it.
If that man is for you, God will reveal it to the both of you. That man will also have to pursue God to find you. While you are both pursing God, there you will be positioned to be found.
As I was in my single season, I learned how to pursue God. One day, I saw this young man at church that I admired from afar. I wanted to pursue him so bad because that was what I did. I remember God telling me I could no longer pursue men. It would all happen in his timing. So of course, I waited on God.
That young man actually pursued me and continued to pursue me while were courting. That man is now my husband.
God revealed this to me: if we would have pursued each other and left God out of the process, all the glory would belong to us and not God. As we both pursued God, He was able to get all the glory for bringing us together as one.
Single women should pursue God. Everything else will work out in your favor.
4 replies on “Single Women Should Pursue”
I guess my question is in what manner are we seeking or persuing God? Do I stop asking God for a husband, when I desire one? Do I stop questioning the man I date or desire to marry as far as where we stand when the relationship is unclear? Do I just come to a screeching halt when I know it’s not really what I want? What does persue God really mean when you are desiring a husband, a family, a life long companion? I mean seriously, I here all these great testimonies with beautiful love story endings but, what’s the real deal in the single season and “waiting season” especially when you have a hard time waiting or being patient?
Great questions! Proverbs 8:17 I love those who seek me; And those who diligently seek me will find me. Our relationship with God is based on love. To seek him, is to love him. God intentionally died for our sins so that we would be reconciled to him. It was all about relationship but in the sacrifice that he made there was love that was exemplified. Yes, you can ask God for a husband. I did! Well, I’m married now. Ask questions before and after you date. I did! I asked lots of questions. While dating I checked in to make sure we were still dating with a purpose. I would pray if you feel that the relationship isn’t progressing at your speed. Sometimes we as women are anxious for the next step what God is trying to develop in the courting season. I definitely can relate with being impatient. God is in control. I could have stepped outside of the will of God and married just anybody. God showed me that the road ahead would be much harder. Waiting patient is hard but its worth it. What seemed like a lifetime, will actually be a short time.
That’s a deep question! In my opinion, pursuing God means trusting that He has the best in mind for you even if it means you’ll never get married. I know, very hard to swallow. All I know from personal experience is that if God thinks a man is not good for you, He will give you signs; the hard part is not to listen to what your emotions are telling you because they will scream to you that the guy is the one when he is far from it. God knows each human being from birth but we only see the outside and what we want to see. God knows what your heart desires, what your womanhood desires as well BUT He knows what kind of man is going to treat you like the princess you are. Not only at the beginning of the relationship but forever. But what He wants more than you finding a mate, is loving yourself first. Pampering yourself, thinking positive about who you are and what you do, do things you love etc. It’s not easily done and it doesn’t mean you won’t desire a man but it will teach you self validation. Believe me that when God says no, He wants to save you from a man that will rip you apart emotionally, psychologically and mentally.
Great advice Diana!!! The creator knows because he created each of us. Trust the warning signs because warning comes before destruction!!