by Lourdes Branch
I ‘m called to singleness and so are you.
You’re probably sitting there screaming at the computer, “Girl, don’t claim that! Don’t limit God! How do you know? You can’t say that to me! You ain’t no prophet.”
You’re right. I’m not claiming anything. I’m not limiting God. I’m not a prophet, nor do I claim to be.
What I am, however, is a single, 31-year-old woman who has googled the answer to the question, “Am I called to singleness,” more times than I’d like my browser history to reveal. I am a woman who has pleaded with God to know if and when I’ll get married. And I am a woman who has watched every deadline age I’ve set to be married pass me by with all the May 3rd birthdays I have.
At this point, I can say that I’m called to singleness and so are you. How do I know? Because I’m single, and if you’re reading this with the same relationship status as me, you’re single, too. That is where you and I are at this point in our lives, and that then is what we are called to. Today. At this moment.
I don’t believe I’m called to lifelong singleness, nor do I believe you are. I also don’t believe you or I need to worry or think about that. Who knows what the future holds? God does, not us.
He does not give to us to know the future (Matthew 24:36 But about that day or hour no one knows…).
He gives to us to trust and believe Him (Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding).
He gives to us our daily bread (Philippians 4:19 But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus).
He gives us His word, and what’s even greater, He gives us Himself (Deuteronomy 31:6 for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you).
His word is full of verses that give us our calling to believe Him for today.
You are called to do today. You are called to be where you are today. There are things (i.e. arriving to work on time, giving your seat to a pregnant woman on the train, talking to your annoying next-door neighbor, not yelling at the person who cut you off in traffic) He has given you to complete for today as a single person. Things that you need to focus on more than your potential wedding date. He hasn’t given you those things because you’re unlovable. He hasn’t given them to you because you are somehow less worthy than a married person. He has, however, given them to you for you to complete your purpose, which is solely to bring Him glory (Revelation 4:11 You are worthy, O Lord our God, to receive glory and honor and power. For you created all things, and they exist because you created what you pleased).
You and I, single person, have work that we are called to today. Only God knows if and when our relationship statuses will change. But until He makes it plain that He’s called you to marriage by providing you someone to marry, focus on today. And get off Google.
You’re right. I’m not claiming anything. I’m not limiting God. I’m not a prophet, nor do I claim to be.
What I am, however, is a single, 31-year-old woman who has googled the answer to the question, “Am I called to singleness,” more times than I’d like my browser history to reveal. I am a woman who has pleaded with God to know if and when I’ll get married. And I am a woman who has watched every deadline age I’ve set to be married pass me by with all the May 3rd birthdays I have.
At this point, I can say that I’m called to singleness and so are you. How do I know? Because I’m single, and if you’re reading this with the same relationship status as me, you’re single, too. That is where you and I are at this point in our lives, and that then is what we are called to. Today. At this moment.
I don’t believe I’m called to lifelong singleness, nor do I believe you are. I also don’t believe you or I need to worry or think about that. Who knows what the future holds? God does, not us.
He does not give to us to know the future (Matthew 24:36 But about that day or hour no one knows…).
He gives to us to trust and believe Him (Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding).
He gives to us our daily bread (Philippians 4:19 But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus).
He gives us His word, and what’s even greater, He gives us Himself (Deuteronomy 31:6 for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you).
His word is full of verses that give us our calling to believe Him for today.
You are called to do today. You are called to be where you are today. There are things (i.e. arriving to work on time, giving your seat to a pregnant woman on the train, talking to your annoying next-door neighbor, not yelling at the person who cut you off in traffic) He has given you to complete for today as a single person. Things that you need to focus on more than your potential wedding date. He hasn’t given you those things because you’re unlovable. He hasn’t given them to you because you are somehow less worthy than a married person. He has, however, given them to you for you to complete your purpose, which is solely to bring Him glory (Revelation 4:11 You are worthy, O Lord our God, to receive glory and honor and power. For you created all things, and they exist because you created what you pleased).
You and I, single person, have work that we are called to today. Only God knows if and when our relationship statuses will change. But until He makes it plain that He’s called you to marriage by providing you someone to marry, focus on today. And get off Google.
One reply on “I'm Called to Singleness”
This title got me, definitely didn’t know if I wanted to look at it first. I’m single but I’ve met an awesome young lady that I would like to pursue. However I have been forcing some interactions and doing it my way to an extent. I know that I need to stop worrying about all that and keep God first above all other pursuits. As I do that he will direct my paths. Thank you for your boldness and God bless you!