It’s everywhere. SEX. It’s on the TV, it’s in the magazines, books, music, posters, movies… EVERYWHERE. So unless you plan on becoming a hermit and staying indoors doing nothing, then I suggest you get some ammunition and learn how to use it.
After speaking with a few people through my blog and business, I thought I would write a post and tell you what helps me keep my vow of purity. Oh, just in case you didn’t know, I run a Christian business geared toward helping men and women stay celibate until marriage. Also, if you read to the end, I’ll have a surprise for you at the end of this post. **Giveaway Alert**
I use the word ammunition in my title because literally there is a fight we experience in our everyday lives to remain pure. The enemy is armed and dangerous and he’s not afraid to use his weapons. So why are we?
Here’s what I’m locked and loaded with:
Prayer
This is the vehicle in which the Lord has given us to communicate with Him. So why don’t we use it? It’s literally available to us anytime of the day. And it’s my first choice when I’m faced with impure thoughts. I just simply say,
“Lord, fill my thoughts with thoughts of you and your goodness. Help me to block the tactics of the enemy that’s trying to infiltrate my mind. Right now I choose to think on everything that is pure and lovely.”
It’s nothing long and drawn out- when the enemy is quickly approaching, or better yet, when he has already used his weapon, you have to use what’s in your arsenal.
Sometimes I even pray my go-to scripture, But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desire” (Romans 13:14)
I encourage you to find a scripture of choice and use it when the enemy is trying to wage war on your mind.
Accountability
You need to find someone who is on the journey of abstaining from sex like you. I recommend finding someone who is further along in the journey than you, that way they can tell you what help keeps them from falling victim to the enemies tactics. See, they more than likely have a language for the season you’re entering or you’ve been in and they will definitely give you sound advice. This is also a person that you should be able to share your struggles with- someone that you plan to be truthful and honest with, because what’s the point of having accountability otherwise?
Listen, I love my accountability partners, I have two- I call them when I need prayer, when I need to talk, and when I need encouragement. I remember one time I texted one of them at a very early hour in the morning and guess, what she responded. This isn’t a walk you have to do by yourself, there are plenty of people, Christians, out here living for the Lord and taking their vow of purity seriously.
My Purity Card
Yes! I carry my card with me everywhere. It’s in my wallet, so I have the ability to pull it out at anytime, anywhere. It’s a great reminder. It’s something about seeing my signature on the card- it reminds me that the decision I made to abstain from sex until marriage shouldn’t be taken lightly. It’s a contract between me and the Lord, and I don’t know about you, but I don’t dishonor any contract I made with my Lord and Savior. (If you want a copy of the card, you can email me at crownedyou@gmail.com).
If you want to join me in this fight for purity, comment below and let me know! I’d love to pray for you and encourage you. I’ll also be entering your comment into a drawing to win an item from my company Crowned, LLC. So be sure to leave enough information so that I can get back in contact with you and follow us on Instagram.
22 replies on “Abstaining From Sex: The Ammunition You Need”
Thank you very much for this article, am just so happy that there people standing up for what they believe in. God bless you for this!
I see your posts on Instagram and I go to click on d bio, and I them so much. I want to tell you a little about me. I lived a bad life in college, it even resulted in me having a child, she is 3 now. But I have vowed and made up my mind to not have sex again until marriage since early 2016 and the Holy spirit has been helping me. Pls I need that purity card. And pls who can someone look up to in this purity journey?
Hey- we’ve all made decisions that we shouldn’t have but praise God, His grace is forever! I’m thankful that He’s such a forgiving God and the Holy Spirit is amazing.. makes our day to day life a little easier knowing we have someone with us at all times. And because of the decision you’ve made, God will honor you for it. Did you receive your purity card? If not email me at the email address listed in the article and I will make sure you receive one. I love mines, it’s a great reminder of the vow I’ve made to Christ, myself and my future husband. Blessings. I’ll be praying for you! Oh and as far as people you to walk with you on this journey, I would recommend finding someone who has also made the decision as well. It’s always good to surround yourself with like minded people. If you don’t find anyone, email me.
I love the transparency and excited to see what waiting for my wedding day brings;) IM CERTAIN ITS A JOURNEY WORTH IT.
Hey Kita,
Isn’t it an incredible the gift God gives us for waiting? He gives us companionship and love in ways we’ve never experienced before. When sex is off the table, you have a chance to focus on that person’s heart, mind and spirit. Praying for you!
This article was right on time because I have made the decision to get back on track with God and one thing that I know will help me out a lot is waiting to have sex until I’m married. This really opened my eyes and heart reading this article.
Hey Sharday, I’m happy to hear that you’ve recommitted yourself to God. Trust me, He loves every minute of the time He gets to spend with you. Also, you have are the WINNER and I have an item from my company that I will be sending you. Email me your name and address if you would like to claim the prize.
Hi Kay, I enjoyed the article and I decided to wait till I get married it gets a little challenging sometimes. It’s wonderful to find
an article like this.
You made a great decision. Removing sex removes the cloud that hovers over our judgment when we do have sex. We don’t exercise good judgement, we will put up with behaviors that we wouldn’t otherwise so that’s why I decided to take sex off the table. I’ll be praying for you and let me know if you ever need anything.
This is something I was just discussing with a friend of mine about how hard this is, but wanting to keep my promise to God. Thank you for this.
You’re welcome. It gets easier with time. It’s time we learn that waiting to have sex says much more about us than having sex, When I realized my worth, sex was easy for me to take off the table.
Thank you for this article.. Been struggling to stay celibate with my bf for a year now. We start and then fall back. Please can I get a purity card and also a purity partner like you spoke about. God bless you.
Hey Gloria,
I think it’s a bold choice when you decide that you want to be celibate, so bold that it alerts the enemy. He will try to do everything in his power to keep you from honoring God, hat’s why it’s important to equip yourself. Email me at crownedyou@gmail.com so that I can get you your Purity Card.
i would love to join you in the fight to purity! I admire what you are doing and am trying to put all other things to the side and focus on the eork of the Lord
That’s it La’Risa! When you do as Matthew 6:33 tells you “Seek Ye first the kingdom of God…” He will supply all your hearts desires. If we truly just focused on the kingdom, everything we want that’s good for us God will supply. That’s our one job.. seek Jesus. I’m honored that you’ve chosen to honor God with your body. I’ll be praying for you!
Thank you for this post!
Me and my boyfriend are both 22 and are virgins, we have been together for 1 year now and we are continuing to wait until marriage. It can get so hard at times, but we want to glorify God and we WILL continue to wait! I know that God with bless our future marriage in many ways because we choose to wait and follow his word. I know that God blessed us with eachother for a amazing reason. And I am forever thankful????????
This is the greatest fight I have ever fought and still fighting. Please keep your girl lifted. Some days I walk with confidence that the Lord is fighting this battle for me. Other days I am tip-toeing around trying not to be seen by the enemy so that he will leave me alone…Mercy! There are days I get tired and God reminds me that his strength is made perfect in my weakness. So I am learning to lean heavily on him. Be blessed and I will pray for you as you pray for me.
I’m tired of being tired and going around the same issues with guys and today I want to do it different and wait on God so please keep me in prayer and I would love a purity card as a reminder of my new commitment. I’m a little nervous because I’ve tried this in the past,but fell back into old ways when stressed arised or I was hurt by a guy,but I refuse to not claim my victory because I’ve fallen a few times Oh no my two girls are counting on me to pull it together and I want to be the woman God intended for me to be before I went my own way. I cut the two toxic people out my life and I’m ready
Good morning Ms. Kay King. Thank you for this article. This has blessed my spirit for real. I’m a single christian woman who is abstaining from sex until marriage and I can say that it hasn’t been easy either. I’ve had my challenges and struggles in this area too. But I thank God for giving me another chance to get it right. I attend a small church and I’m the only single person there too. Sometimes they don’t understand the issues and struggles I go through. But theu are so encouraging though. I’m glad that I have other Christian singles on social media that’s doing the same thing I’m going to talk to read articles like these and understand what I’m going through. So Ms. Kay King I’m joining you to abstain from sex until marriage.
This is such a blessing to read! Sometimes I feel like everyone is having sex and living just fine. I have two accountability partners as well, one more responsive than the other, but that has been a blessing. I just wonder, are there Christian men still waiting until marriage? It seems as if women take these vows and yet guys are not willing to take that step. Really disappointing! I’ve met so many “Christian” men who were comfortable having sex while dating, which was really confusing for me.
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This is where I am in my life right now. The Lord is preparing me for marriage and satan keep sending his snare to try and drag me back. It won’t work! That’s how I know I’m getting closer to my breakthrough! God is so good! I no longer watch shows glorifying sex, I listen only to music that glorifies God, and I remain productively busy. I do things that magnify the Lord but more importantly I build intimacy with Him. I get up early enough to pray, praise, and listen to Him. I read His word and speak it as well as do it so that I can be on one accord with the Holy Spirit. I’ve gotten off of social media and blocked men that are snared of the enemy. I’ve been made new in Christ and I won’t look back. God is good Saints! We can finish strong!
I am a divorcee now goin on 7 years and have dated after my divorce. I was in a toxic relationship for 4.5 years and it was FAR from Godly =( A month before my mother went Home to be With The Lord (May 2015) I had a heart to heart talk w/God and told him I needed Him to end this relationship bc I couldn’t do it. I even said ‘I don’t know why now I want out, but I do..and I can’t seem to end it. I feel like I need to just focus on you and my mom Lord, please help me. I will manfast & remain pure in your honor Lord, please keep me away from men that are not Of You.’ A few days later, it was over. I wasn’t sad, I didn’t cry..I was fine. A month later my mom passed away. It was the toughest year I have ever had to endure. I made the mistake of being physically intimate one time, a year after my vow to stay celibate (May 2016)..and boy did the enemy know how to play the guilt card on me =( I was so hard on myself and of course I have friends that don’t understand this walk so if anything, they were applauding me for finally ‘getting some.’ A couple months later I began to date and from the jump I let anyone I dated know my vow to celibacy. I’ve had a couple be very respectful and say it wasn’t for them but that they hope I find what I’m looking for and a few others practically ran like Forest LOL The last guy I told that to made me feel so bad for doing this and was so mad about it, and I had already mentioned it to him 2 times before!! He later said, ‘I thought you were kidding.’ Goodness smh I am so grateful that I’m finally ok with the fact that I will be pure when I meet the man God has been preparing me for and him for me. I see it this way now…every person that comes into my life that isn’t down with this walk, it just means I’m that much closer to the man of my dreams. I know God is in control & knowing my mom is up there as well..I know she’s probably being her sassy and nagging self (w/all due respect) and tapping Gods shoulder like ‘Hey I know You’re God and You got this, but let me tell you what I think would be good for her too..’ haha! I’m so grateful to have an amazing army up in Heaven! My dad is there too, as well as both of my set of grandparents! So I know that God has built His team of angels to protect me from these schmuks that think they got it in the bag hehe I apologize for this being so long, but I hope this helped someone that is struggling! We got this girls and when we don’t..God does!