by Habiba Abudu
I never had a boyfriend before (cue gasps). I know. I know. How can a fabulous gal like me be condemned to singleness? You may be shocked, but I believe God is protecting me from all the fluff that is out there. I truly believe that society as a whole is looking at singleness wrong. This year my perspective has radically changed and I am really not interested in getting tied down just yet. Here are some tips that have helped me:
- Travel
I have no babies or man and I can go wherever I please (albeit I need money first), but I am looking forward to the places that God will take me this year.
- Become a Good Steward
I am learning how to manage my finances, my house and myself. The spirit of self-control is real y’all. I am also using this time to raise up strong women of God and develop a sisterhood. Sowing into other people’s lives is one of my greatest fulfillments.
- Get in “Rocky Balboa” Shape
I am getting in the best shape of my life. I do believe taking care of your temple is a major key to success. I participate in runs and can walk for hours. Exercise and a good diet has really developed my self-confidence.
- Develop Intimacy with Christ
While many girls are looking for a relationship, there is a real man who is ready to begin a relationship with you. His name is Jesus Christ. I can spend hours with Christ. Whether it be in the Word or just praying, the process has been really sanctifying. It is through this process that I can share my fears, my failures, my hopes.
- Pursue Your Dreams
When you married and have kids your time is limited. Right now, the sky is the limit. I am able to dedicate myself to various individuals, go to networking events and be used mightily by God to do big things!
Habiba is a freelance writer based in Toronto. My website is www.habibaabudu.com and www.facebook.com/
2 replies on “5 Things to Do When You're Single”
All of these things are really great things to do in your time of singleness and I applaud you for using your time in these ways. I think there are positives to dating and having the experience of being in a relationship because it can show you things about yourself that aren’t revealed in family and friendship relationships. The greater level of initimacy (not physically speaking) gives a wider range for the ability to be hurt and seeing how you react in these situations are important to see if perhaps there are some wounds from childhood that may have not fully healed and so forth. Important to work on before marriage so you don’t have to deal with so much in your marriage.
Preach these twice!! I feel the same way about being hidden! It’s like EVERY time I half way put myself out there, I had a stop or there wouldn’t be peace! I am literally working on ALL 5 of these things and it’s a beautiful place to be! I am sincerely choosing to ENJOY this time!! God bless!!