Single Men: Priorities

There is a common need that all people have in this life. That is the need to be connected with people in a real way. This is the reason that solitary confinement is the worst punishment known to man. As a man, I feel at times that I can take on and conquer the world no matter how much physical pain I am in. Even as I am writing this I am currently not feeling well, but still feel like I can keep pushing. But isolation is a different type of pain.
I think it is important to first understand that as a single man our desire to be in a relationship is not a sin, accident, or punishment. God wired us to be connected with Him first then a partner. That is why He was not just satisfied with animals. He said let us make human being in our image to be like us (Gen. 1:26.) We were first created for God. However, when God created Adam He knew that Adam also needed a person like him to be connected to.
God is very aware of our thirst for relationships. He put it there. Unfortunately there are times that we begin to idolize that desire for a relationship and we want that relationship more than we want the perfect will of God. I believe that if your desire is to be married one day then absolutely God can make that happen for you. But before we think about “her,” let us look at a few more aspects of Adam and Eve’s story.
In Genesis 2:18 (a verse that men love to quote) says, “it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” This is very clear that God knows your need for a relationship better than you do. What I love about this passage, that so many people overlook is the very next verse. Verse 19 says this, “So the Lord God formed from the ground all the wild animals and all the birds of the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would call them, and the man chose a name for each one.”
Isn’t it interesting that immediately after God told Adam you don’t need to be alone, but first I need you to name all these animals? I’m sure I would have been like “but God… What about my helper?” Here’s the reality, God has a helper just for you. However, there may be things that He needs for you to do before He brings her along. God’s purpose for your life is way more important than your future spouse because He would never give you a spouse to take away from your purpose. So where are you at with purpose? Do you know what God has called you to do? Are you walking in that direction? Is your bank account at the place it needs to be? How are you stewarding your purpose?
How can you ask God for “her” if you have not began to walk in your purpose yet? You have to first be a good steward over your purpose before you can ever be a good steward over hers too. So I challenge you with this. Stop worrying about her and start fulfilling purpose. Then watch Him bring her along to help you. God cares more about your purpose than He does your spouse. Get in purpose.
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