One question I always get is how do I let my husband lead me? Usually, the issue is the husband may be an unbeliever or he may have a laid back personality. There are several things that strong women can do to make sure their husbands feel able and free to lead them. I will share some below.
1. Learn his leadership Style– Not everyone leads the same way; it is important to learn his leadership style. It may be different than yours, but choose to learn it and allow him to lead the way he knows how.
2. Check yourself- Do you always want things done your way? Do you get upset when things do not look like what you want them to look like? You really need to get to the root issue of your own actions. Some of us like to say we are “Type A,” but in reality we are actually controlling. There is a difference between the two and we need to check it, especially if we are married.
3. Make space for him to lead- Often times men won’t lead unless we create space for them to lead. We always want things done a certain way or done when we want them to be done. When we act this way, we are not making room for him to lead.
4. Allow him to make mistakes- You need to be aware that leading and being the head of a relationship is very scary. Help your man understand how much you love him and support him; let him know that he does not need to do everything perfectly, he just needs to try.
5. Learn each other’s strengths- If you guys can understand each other’s strength, you can then see who is best at leading what. One may be good at accounting, another at organizing trips, etc. Learn what each of you do well, and work together on leading that.
6. Pray for him- Pray that God will give him wisdom to make good decision and continuously cover him. The Holy Spirit can teach him how to lead you.
7. Be patient- Remember, things take time. People need time to shift into new behaviors. If you have a discussion about changes that both of you are going to put into action, allow each other time to grow into your new roles.
4 replies on “How to Let Your Man Lead You”
Very good article! and important headings to put in mind. I want to know; does this apply to dating aswell? and how can one learn his leadership style?
hi, yes it does apply to dating because dating in alot of ways is a picture of your future marriage, whether you marry that person or someone else you will have to learn to let them lead you. Take some of the pointers above and see which ones you really need to focus on and take it one day at a time learning them.
Faith C. Wokoma Thank you. It is helping out alot, especially the 3 last ones. God continue blessing you .
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