Ladies, It's Okay to Have Your Moments

Yes, we all have moments. Especially Me. Usually in those “moments” all reasoning, instruction and even encouragement could be viewed as a negative punch in the stomach especially when that “moment” feels unbearable and overwhelmingly real.

To be honest, I have had a lot of uncomfortable, debilitating, awful and intolerable “moments” in this past year.  Marriage, transition, and life has an amazing way of showing you what is important and what is not. I have seen myself have beautiful moments of bliss as well as dark moments of confusion. But in each moment whether positive or negative I have seen how the hand and voice of God has never left me during my time of need.

I had to learn how to use my “moment” to bring glory to God versus bringing glory to my temporal moment of unsurety. I want to share with you three ways to redirect your attention and focus on what really matters during that “moment”.

 

1. Encourage yourself with His Truth

One of my favorite scriptures is Jeremiah 29:11” For I know the thoughts and the plans that I have for you”,says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”  There is HOPE in JESUS.

To have hope is to “know what is wanted, can be had and your circumstances will turn out for the best”. When your hope is in Him everything that you go through is not by mistake it is done with purpose in mind.

The enemy wants you to believe your current situation which may look destroyed or unrepairable will never be restored and you will live a life full of disappointments and chaos. That is a LIE and is not your portion. God’s plans for you are of good and not of evil to give you an expected end. Remind yourself of His promises towards you. They are “Yes” and “Amen” concerning you.  You will make it through and you will be restored.

2. Worship Your way through

Worship is a powerful way to combat and respond to the lies of the enemy when you are feeling weak.  In His presence there is fullness of Joy. In His presence He shows you who you are and reveals to you instruction and His heart towards you.

There have been many times where I have put a song on and began to worship and all of the negative words, feelings and memories dissipated the moment I began to point my attention towards the one who is eternal and unconditionally loving. Psalms 84:10 “For a day in your courts is better than a thousand elsewhere. I would rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God than dwell in the tents of wickedness” One moment in his presence will change the trajectory of your life! Allow him to reveal so that He can heal.

3. Reach Out

This has been one of the hardest things for me to do in this season, and to be quite honest I am still working on it. But, I will share how it has stretched me and helped me to be more transparent and authentic up to this point.

Sometimes it can be very hard to put into words how you feel. So it just seems like it would just be easier to allow your mind to imagine and create superficial “reals”  while telling yourself, “Its just how I feel”, that is not good. God has placed people in your life, whether covenant friends, mentors or spiritual parents and pastors to be a form of encouragement to you in your time of need.

You need someone in your life who will be honest with you, someone who will remind you of who God says you are and not allow you to wallow in the lies of the enemy and your flesh.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, “Two people are better than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.” Whew!

This scripture is REAL. You need friends. You need support.  If you don’t have a support system, begin to ask God to bring Godly men or women into your life who will love you  and help  you be all that God has called you to be.

I pray that these three ways have encouraged you to continue to press towards the mark and to not give up when you have an “infamous” moment. I pray that you stand tall and encourage yourself, worship your way through and reach out to those God has placed in your circle.