Husbands, What Your Wife Needs You To Be Able To Do

Husbands, I get it.
 
She has been nagging you day in and day out. You are sick and tired of being huff and puffed at, told what to do, hearing her vent, being scolded, given dirty looks and rolled eyes, asked to help around the house after a full day of work, and especially being told “no” to intimacy.
No matter how many times you tell her you love her, or go above and beyond to make her happy, she focuses the 1 ‘wrong’ out of 100 ‘rights.’ All of your attempts to show her love are shut down because she thinks that “making love” is your hidden agenda.
Any ounce of patience that you had left disappeared when she told you those infamous words, “you just don’t understand.”
 
You are drained. Annoyed. Angry. Upset. Confused. Trust me, I understand.
 
The only desire you have is to be close to her in mind, body and spirit. To be ‘one’ in unity. To hold her. To love her. To please her. To make her smile and laugh. You just don’t know how. Well, take a second to listen from the perspective of experience.
 
Slow down. Relax. Clear your mind. Focus.
 
It is our responsibility as men to approach our wives with grace and understanding, no justifications. There are no conditional clauses in scripture, in regards to our relationships with our wives. (i.e. Peter 3:7. “You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.”)
 
As the man and leader of your home, show her grace for the 1,000,004th time. Sincerely apologize over and over again, change your character, refine your integrity, and speak her love language. Again…and again…and again. Act like the man you promised to be in your wedding vows, and be the warrior she needs you to be.
 
1. She needs you to be strong when she can’t.
2. She needs you to talk kindly to her when she is harsh with her words.
3. She needs you to wash those dishes, pick up those clothes, put that toilet seat down, turn off that light, make that bed, and then kiss her good night.
4. She needs you to love her when it is hard.
 
Be willing to lose the battle, so you can win the war and finally have that Godly marriage you both desire.
 
After all, how many times has your Heavenly Father asked to spend time with you and you’ve ignored him, huffed and puffed, or rolled your eyes? How many times has He wanted to talk to you, but you just wanted to vent?
How many times has he done 100 amazing things in your life, but you tell Him about the 1 thing you are ticked off about. And how many times has he asked to be spiritually intimate, and you’ve told him no?
 
Yet, He shows you grace, He understands, and He loves you. He ‘lost’ that battle for us, knowing it would win the war.