Did God Really Tell Me Who “The One” Is?

Being single is rough because our minds can begin to wonder about who the one is and how we are going to meet them. So many of us can quickly get deceived into believing that God told us who we are supposed to marry. We need to be very diligent because God rarely speaks this way. Sometimes our desires can get confused with God’s voice, and that is why we have to be extra discerning about the men and women around us!
 
Here are two practical ways that can help you discern whether you are listening to God’s voice correctly or not:
 
1. Be extremely honest with yourself.
Go back to the time before you “heard” God tell you who the one is, and ask yourself several questions. Was it really God’s voice telling you he/she is the one, or do you just need to admit that you like this person?
How did their name even come up in a conversation with you and God in your prayer time? Could it be possible that you desired so much to have some one like this person, that you felt God wanted the best for you, so you turned it into a yes? God wants the best for us and this is why, before asking God a question, we have to be ready to hear the answer no matter what it is.
 
2. Look at the history you have with this person.
Have you been friends for a long time? How often do you hang out? Have they ever brought up a dating conversation? Do you have peace about them? Get to the root of the situation.
When the right person comes along, there should be no confusion on their intentions towards you. Ladies, the right guy knows what he wants and will not hesitate to go after you. Men are pursuers in nature. A wise woman once said, “The right man will wake up one morning and know who his bride is.” Men, the right woman is going to be for you and not against you.
 
God will not tell you who the one is in order for you to suffer, get confused, or struggle. Many of us make this situation worse because we look for ways in which God can confirm if this person is the one. This is so dangerous because our desires can sometimes appear in our dreams, making the situation overly-spiritual.
Love is a choice, therefore it has to be mutual. If God speaks to one, He will also speak to the other. Even if we think we have heard God’s voice, we need to be discerning, patient, and never settle that person is the one in your heart until…like Solomon says, “Do not awaken love until it so desires” (SS 2:7). Ladies, let this man desire you and pursue you like you deserve! Men, if you are pursing and she is playing games, do not waste your time!
 
If you know you struggle with this, do a heart-check. Begin to declare the word of God in your prayer time and renew your mind.  I encourage you, pray for your husband/wife, but be careful not to go too far. God wants us to marry the right person, but first we have to stay focused and be faithful in this season of singleness.
Do not settle, and trust God that he knows you well enough to bring your spouse at the right time. No matter how long you have waited, it will be worth it. Do not be deceived, and save yourself from heartache. Let’s stand strong by not allowing any distractions come our way. Pick up your weapon of choice and remember; you are mighty through God.
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