The Good In Marrying Someone Opposite From You

It can be a great thing marrying someone who is your opposite. They expose you to new things you otherwise wouldn’t experience.
One of the biggest differences between my husband and I is he is a dreamer, always picturing the next big thing. He always sees the glass more than half full and envisions what seems impossible.
He is the type of person who takes on the world one day at a time and believes wholeheartedly he will conquer his dreams. He does not dream about mediocrity. Instead, he takes the desires God has instilled in his heart and dreams bigger than my mind can grasp.
I, on the other hand, tend to see the glass for what it is – half full, empty, completely full and so on. I assure you I am not cynical about life, but if I’m having a bad day I don’t pretend it’s great. I always see the obstacles in any dream my husband has.
And, I don’t always agree everything is a good idea. I always question the next big thing my husband is stirring up and very rarely jump on board without reviewing all ends of a plan.
You are probably wondering how we are able to make our marriage work.
So let me tell you.
The best thing you can do if you married a dreamer is to always be hopeful. I may not always dare to dream the big dreams, but I am always hopeful. I trust that God has instilled every vision and desire into my husband for a reason.
And that for me is enough. My husband and I will never live a comfortable life. He will always want to push us to the next level. We may stumble along the way at times, but God honors His children when they step out in faith.
If you married a dreamer don’t be scared to walk alongside those dreams. You can question, you can plan, and you can even have hesitations at times, But always, always be hopeful.
I use to think my husband and I always had to find a good balance between his dreams and my reality until our pastor said: “There is no such thing as balance in a marriage. There is rhythm.”
Just like music, life is filled with ups and downs. There will be times where we risk it all for my husband’s dreams. But, there will also be times where we have to embrace the slow tempo on the long journey to pursue big dreams.
Marriage can be a really great thing when you recognize and accept the things that make your spouse unique. So look for those things that make your spouse different from you and trust God made them that way for a reason. Be hopeful that your spouse is always pursing God, even when it looks crazy!
“But I will hope continually, And will praise You yet more and more”. (‭Psalms‬ ‭71‬:‭14‬ NKJV)