The Purpose in Waiting on God for Your Spouse

​We often hear people say “Singles need to wait on God”, but what does it mean to wait on the Lord as it pertains to relationships, dating,courtship and marriage?
One definition of “Wait” is “To stay in a place or remain in readiness or in anticipation (until something expected happens or for someone to arrive or catch up); to be ready or at hand”.
Sometimes when the word “wait” is heard it is interpreted as staying in a position or doing nothing until a certain time or until something occurs. However, when we use and hear the phrase “to wait on the Lord” it often requires specific actions or behaviors while we wait ”.
A key term used in the mentioned definition of wait is readiness. The word readiness is derived from ready which means to be prepared. Unmarried believers who desire to be married are taught to just wait on God until he sends their mate, attend church, stay saved and trust God to send their mate when he is ready.
The problem with this belief is that 9 times out of 10 God is waiting for unmarried believers to become ready to send their mate. Many men and women are waiting for the day when they will find their earthly love or be found but often miss the preparation stage which precedes being found or finding the right one. Waiting on the Lord to send a mate requires preparation.
The preparation stage which always precedes meeting someone, courtship and marriage but is often missed, ignored or ends prematurely. It requires both men and women who desire marriage to be delivered from strongholds that has the power to be detrimental to the individual, their purpose and others.
It requires, pruning, unlearning ungodly beliefs and generational dysfunctions, submission to God and his will for your life, healing from past relationships (if applicable), hurts, disappointments and receiving a level of restoration to become sober with a new mindset and Godly perspectives.
In the preparation stage girls are transformed into women and boys are made into men. Women learn how to become wives and men learn how to become husbands.
If you have taken the necessary time for God to mature, heal and prepare you to become a husband or wife refuse to settle as a result of being tired of waiting on the right one. Settling is proof that your trust is not in God to do what he has already promised you.
When your trust, faith and hope is truly in him there is no need or desire to settle! We begin to view waiting as a benefit instead of a curse, God’s timing as protection instead of a punishment and most importantly we understand we can not afford to settle for anyone who has the potential to compromise our purpose or future.
Until you understand the blessings in your “waiting season” you will never enjoy the quality of your life and purpose in being anunmarried believer! There is purpose in why you are still unmarried and until you discover it, chances are you will remain unmarried or settle for someone who was never intended to be apart of your life.
Your happiness or unhappiness as an unmarried believer is your choice. The choice is always yours to move prematurely into a relationship/marriage or to wait and submit to God’s timing for your future relationship and marriage.