“Good Men are hard to find.” …“Why are there no good men left in the world?”…
This statement and question together can leave you feeling frustrated while waiting in your single season. When you are frustrated with a season that God has called you to, it can lead you into temptation. Temptation not only causes you to fall, but it draws you away from God. It delays the promises of God from manifesting in your life.
Single Ladies: Stop saying, “Good med are hard to find.”
First, you shouldn’t be looking for a man. Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord. [NKJV] When you step out of alignment with God by searching for a man, you are telling God that he can’t handle this area of your life. When you step out of alignment, you also abort the mission. Then you find yourself in the wilderness longer than you had to be because of your disobedience to waiting on God and trusting in his plan. Your position is to seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:33 [NIV] Promises are often withheld because God is still maturing us to handle the gift he has for us. If we receive it in a premature season, we will mishandle the gift. Wait on God, sis!
Single Ladies: Stop asking, “Why are there no good men left?”
Are you looking for perfection and walking past and rejecting the one that doesn’t look like what you expected? Are your expectations based on your broken past experiences? Your single season is a time to clean house–clear your mind and rid your heart of all the junk you’ve allowed to be stored up on the inside of you. The enemy takes a strong hold of the mind. The battle is always within the mind. If Satan, can have you ask questions like: “Why are there no Good Men left?, he can keep you focusing on what you see around you. He can also blind you to what’s right in front of you. He can block you from hearing the voice of God because you’re so focused on distractions like this question. This question is a distraction to the promises of God that you should be focused on.
STOP making this statement and STOP asking this question. If you consider yourself to be a good woman then you have to believe that there are good men–Godly Men- still left on this planet. You have to believe that you don’t have to find them, but God will allow them to find you in due season. You have to stand on the word of God and know he will never leave you or forsake you [Hebrews 13:5 NRSVA]. Whatever promises he has spoken will come to pass. STAND on his word! There are Godly Men still left on this Planet!
