Would you be surprised if I told you that every single person that desires a mate, ponders this question? I pondered this question often. I grew frustrated, anxious, and sometimes concerned. I just wondered if God had a mate in the plans for my life. Can I let I let you in on a secret? I have discovered that one of the greatest gifts that God develops within us while we are single is the gift of patience.
I was a very impatient person. I wanted everything right then. I hated waiting on things, people and even results. I needed everything quick, fast and in a hurry.
So when God requested that I stop dating my way and trust His way, I often grew impatient with the process. What I found so amazing about my single season is that God didn’t share with me how long I would be single.
But if God would have told me, there would be no reason for me to trust in His word. I had to trust in God and know that the plans that He had for me would not harm me but give me a hope and a future. I had to allow God to teach me and even lead me through my season of singleness.
I would often become anxious about being single because I would look at others around me who were getting engaged or married. There were times that I was envious of others relationships. I wanted to go ahead of God and make things happen on my own. But God would stop me in my tracks and remind to wait on Him because it would be so worth it.
I hear singles all time saying “How long will I be single?” Although it’s a valid question. It’s also is a question that reflects that we are growing impatient in the process of waiting on God. I think often we view our season of being single as an affliction, when in actuality it’s a blessing to be single. It’s a gift from God.
Now that I’m married, I realize that God was preparing me for what was to come. I had to learn how to be patient, so that I could be patient with my husband. Patience is not always developed for relationships but the many trials that may come our way in the future.
By embracing the gift of patience God blessed with an amazing husband. I’ve even learned how to be patient in those dry seasons of my life.
I encourage my single sisters and brothers to patiently wait on the Lord. Yes, I know it can be a tough season. But I want to let you know that it’s so worth it to patiently wait on God to bless you with your mate.
9 replies on “How Long Will I Be Single?”
Well written Calandra, you brought out the significant point of patience..it prunes us and calms us.and teaches us to rejoice while waiting..
To God be the glory!! Although difficult it’s worth waiting on Gods best for us. As you stated patience keeps us in perfect peace.
Interesting perspective. Patience in waiting is one thing but many of us may never get married or have kids of our own. In my experience, there seems to be a gap in that advice as many woman are now too old to have kids, have never been married, and now feel cheated or disappointed. I believe that we should stress that marriage is not the reward. The reward is Jesus regardless of the season we are in or going through.
Ang, this is only one of many articles that I have written. I believe in Jesus Christ and always point people back to Jesus. However, I also understand that there are women and men that desire to be married. If we are graced with that role – there is no age or limits that can stop that from happening. If God said it, then it is so. For the women that feel that way, (too old to have kids, never been married, and feel cheated or disappointed) it is less about one’s perspective and more about doing a heart check. If we are feelign that we missed out, then we have began to idolize marriage versus checking in with God to ask him to reveal the plans that he has for us while here on earth.
You are so right. Sometimes women and men get in that desperation stage. It’s almost as if, if they’re not married then they’re not happy. I myself am learning to focus on God and myself, which makes waiting alot easier. Learning not to rush, but at just the right time God will bless us with someone far better then what we could imagine. Let’s strive to wait so that we can have a solid, permanent relationship with someone, instead of rushing because we want that intimacy and end up in divorce.
dear calandra,I’ve been waiting for 7yrs.God still says I should wait,I keep wondering how long.
Pauline, if God has instrcuted you to wait then you wait. My ex husband was trying to pursue me after marriage. I prayed to the Lord so that I would make the best decision. The Lord said, “You can go down this road and I will take care of you. (He gave me a glimpse of the troubles I would endure.) Then the Lord said, “But I have better for you.” When I tell you sis I am so glad I waited on God and didn’t settle. My husband is a reflection of the way that Christ loves me. I don’d doubt that he loves me. Wait on God!!!
I’m waiting on God to send me my hubsand, I am firm believer that God is always on time and he always gives you more and better than you could ever imagine. My faith and trust is in God I know he will send me someone that will be everything I want and more.
Great Blog! Enjoyed this post. Waiting patiently on God for a spouse is one of the wisest things one can do! We have to trust that God’s timing is perfect. And if He hasnt moved for us in this way yet, then maybe we still have work to do on ourselves. He’s giving opportunity to prepare first.
Blessings,
Ronnie
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