I believe as Christians who seek to glorify God it’s important to be patient and wait for the one who complements us, at a time when we’re ready to receive it. Falling into the wrong relationships knowingly does not please nor seek to glorify God; rather it is a method of self gratification whether it be from feeling pressured or just wanting something badly. I have had friends tell me that they knew they were with the wrong person, but they just couldn’t stand the mere thought of being alone. That it is a fearful way of thinking. Staying with someone you know isn’t the one does not demonstrate faith in an almighty God and the abundant blessings he has for your life, nor does it help fulfill your purpose. Scripture states “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future” Jeremiah 29:11.
I am reaching a place where I am seeking and trusting God to help me recognize the right person, and shaping myself to be the Godly woman I was called to be. In the midst of this period it is important to be faithful and patient. Here are the ways I believe are helpful in doing so:
- Praying– Being in communication with God to not only shape your future partner, but to also help acknowledge when you hear his voice, so that way when a suitable partner does come along you know.
- Strengthening the Relationships You Have Now– A book titled, “A Course in Miracles” states, “Make your brotherly relationships more romantic and your romantic relationships more brotherly” and basically what this means is treating our friendships with the same significance that we put into romantic relationships. Our friendships are also important, and if we can maintain healthy relationships with friends and family this can transcend to our romantic relationships, making them that much more meaningful.
- Self-Improvement– Improving something about ourselves that may need some work. For example, learning to be more patient, working on building credit, whatever the case may be; your single period is a great time to work on things that may need improvement, because when you’re in a relationship those issues become more evident.
- Finding Your Purpose– It’s important to seek the purpose that God calls for your life, and not just a partner. When we know our purpose we can ensure God’s will be done, which enhances our relationships and the roles we play in them.