Relationships: From Distraction to Focus

Guest Writers: Culus Ellerton Williams II & Calandra Thompson
 
Calandra: Many of us have become distracted by the temporary things that have been placed in our paths by the enemy. God doesn’t want his people to be distracted, He wants us to be focused. As a woman, I desired to be married but I was choosing all the wrong men. These men were only distractions from the purpose that God had for my life.
 
My spirit was grieving and I knew that God was requiring more from me. God wanted me to trust Him with my life. His word says in Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” God removed the distractions from my life and He began to prepare me for my future. My focus shifted from dating to chasing after God.
 
Culus: As a man, distractions are so common in our everyday lives that it can be hard to discern between things that help or hinder us. For a long time in my life, it seemed as if my time was spent with people who would rather hurt and hinder me than help and encourage me, specifically when it came to the women I would date. I realized what my true problem was. The qualities that I wanted most in women didn’t match the standard God had for my life.
 
After feeling like a worn out tire, I felt that I needed some serious re-prioritization. God has a special way of grasping our attention in order for us to realize and accept the purpose in our lives, and the people He sends in our lives that will help us achieve that purpose. Once I began to clearly hear God speak the purpose He had for me and who He would send to help me reach my desired destination, clarity was provided.
 
God sees what we cannot and can understands things that are far too perplexed for our minds. He knows that what our flesh desires will have our minds in a state of instability. If you really want the person God has for you, we need to start being the person God needs for us to be. Who God has for you is for you! As you can see, we both turned from our distractions and started to focus on God. God is first in both of our lives and His presence is welcomed in our courtship.  We worship, pray and study God’s word together. We are courting with a purpose to be married and for our union to inspire other people.
 
Culus: “I tell my lady all the time that it took 26 years for me to find her, but I would still be looking for her if I hadn’t gotten a clear interpretation of what God had in store for me.”
Calandra: “I tell people that he is my praise report because he is a gift from up above.”
 
 

My name is Culus Ellerton Williams II. I am devoted to God, family, and progression. I am also a member of Christian Chapel Temple of Faith and I am leader of the Game Changers Ministry. I enjoy helping others, seeing business growth, and learning God’s word.
Calandra Thompson is a Christian Blogger of http://inspiredcali14. blogspot.com/ a blog that is written to encourage and inspire people in their daily walk with Jesus Christ. She is a ministry leader and supports many other ministries. Calandra is currently enrolled in seminary school to prepare her for the calling on her life. Calandra has 3 beautiful children and is currently courting CJ Williams with a purpose to marry. Her passion for Christ inspires her to spread the gospel to all that will hear. Calandra resides in Dallas, TX and attends Christian Chapel Temple of Faith CME.