The Goodness in Singleness

 
Guest Writer: Areli Villasenor
 
There are many obvious struggles in being single, and the church sometimes aggravates the situation by telling us to guard our hearts. But let’s just face it, some of us are over here like, “well that’s easy for you to say, married person!” I have taken my time to ask a few of my single girl friends what their biggest struggle is in being single, and one of them said,  “I don’t mind being single, just show me the goodness in that season.” I totally get her. It’s hard enough to see your best friend receiving the promise before you, not that you are not happy for them, but your heart just desires to be with someone. You feel me?
 
One thing that has helped me through the single season is  knowing that God can use me in the now. Sometimes we tend to think we are not mature enough to be used, to start a ministry, or to live our biggest dream. We long to live our dreams with our future husband.  Wrong! God wants to use you now! God wants to use your struggles to help other women step into the freedom that you have found. So, I encourage you to go after your dreams. Don’t put your life or dreams on hold because you are waiting on someone to help you fulfill them. Life is short and a few years from now you will regret that you wasted your time sitting around not going after what you enjoy and desire.
 
Another thing that God has revealed to me in this season of singleness is that God has given me a sword. Let me explain a little bit more about what I mean by a sword. Lately I’ve been tired of the Disney movie theology that Christian singles have seem to adopted. We believe we are God’s princesses waiting for our prince, or shall I say our Boaz. And that’s fine, we are God’s princesses, but oh my goodness can we just talk about that? Girls, we are not called to sit here and wait for our prince. Neither are we called to sit around and wait to be pursued.
 
Say what? Okay, okay. We are called to be pursued, but not in the way we think.  Yes, we will be pursued, God willing, but it is not our life’s calling to sit and wait for a man. Yes, we are to wait, but not just for our Boaz, we are called to sit in His presence and wait to hear His voice. Instead of just waiting around for our prince like some of those Disney princesses, we are called to rise up, pick up our sword and fight against our struggles and insecurities. We are called to fight for ourselves as daughters of the most High God. We are called to fight for our freedom and fullness in Jesus.
 
As we pick up our weapons of warfare we will be strong in Him, walking in God’s fullness and joy. We will be ready for the day that a Godly man steps into our lives, so that we can run the race with him and help him fight the good fight. Our Boaz does not need a princess, rather he needs a woman of God, a mighty warrior that will help him in the battle.  So, I encourage you beautiful woman, mighty warrior of God, pick up your weapon of choice and fight for your dreams, fight for your healing, your passions, overcome your insecurities, and be filled with God, for there is nothing or no one better than Jesus.
 

 
I am 27 years old currently completing a Masters degree in Counseling at Dallas Baptist University. I graduated from Christ for the Nations in 2010 with a degree in theology and youth ministry. I am passionate and hungry for the things of Jesus. Because of my past struggles with relationships and insecurities, God has given me the desire to see women overcome their barriers and come together in unity. One of my biggest desires is to help women see that God has given them each a sword to rise up as warriors in order to advance the Kingdom of God. I also have a huge heart for the nations, so I enjoy learning and meeting people from other cultures. It is my deepest desires to impact the nations. I have been a dancer since I was 5 years old, and I enjoy teaching dance and prophetic dancing. I love fashion, food, pioneering, and hanging out with family and friends. I live in freedom!