Russell Wilson, who is a top NFL Quarterback for the Seattle Seahawks is in a dating relationship with R&B Singer and Dancer, Ciara.
God spoke to Russell one night at one of her shows and asked her, “I need you to lead her”. He says he knew that God brought them together to bless others. He then asks her what if they took all the extra stuff off the table and does their relationship God’s way!
Here is a clip of him talking more about this commitment for them to abstain from sex.
Skip to 23:53!
https://youtu.be/TmVgryMK8i8?t=1433
Skip to 23:53!
This is an awesome testimony of how it is possible to abstain from sexual relations before marriage. It is not easy, but it is worth it. I love how he did ask everyone to pray for them. That is real talk!
Month: July 2015
As parents, we are charged with the safety, education, love, and support of our children. We are their instructors, coaches, and cheerleaders. However, with all of our experiences and education, we can still learn from our children. Let me share a real story that occurred between one of my closet friends and his eldest son.
My friend’s son was in 2nd grade and is the oldest of 4 children. He and his siblings all go to the same school, so you can imagine what mornings are like getting them all ready! Hectic can sometimes be an understatement. Well, this particular morning my friend was getting the children ready and moving quickly, and was reminded by his eldest son that he hadn’t given him any lunch money. So my friend told him, “Son, I’m coming back. Tell your teacher that I’m coming back.”
Now, we all know that our children hang on to every word we say, and my friend’s son did just that. The day went on and lunchtime rolled around and my friend’s son didn’t have any lunch. His teacher asked him where his lunch or lunch money was. The young boy responded telling him, “My daddy said he’s coming.” Time passed and the end of lunch time was drawing near.
The teacher tells my friend’s son that he’s going to call his father because he may have forgotten. The young man replies and tells him not to call because “My daddy said he’s coming.” The teacher insisted on calling my friend, but his son spoke with the authority of his father and said, “My daddy said he’s coming.” This went on for a few more minutes because the teacher wanted to make sure that my friend’s son could eat.
Shortly after the last exchange between my friend’s son and his teacher, my friend’s father walks in the door with his son’s food. My friend’s son was sitting quietly at the table and when he saw his dad, he commented to his teacher “See, I told you he was coming!”
This true story taught me many things, but there were 3 especially noteworthy things that children can teach their parents about faith:
1. My friend’s son believed, without question, what his father said regardless of what it seemed like at the moment. The fact that all the other kids were enjoying their lunch and having a great time while my friend’s son couldn’t eat had no bearing on the belief, faith, and trust in his father’s promises. What would happen if we believed God’s word…his promises that are “Yes and Amen” as my friend’s son did. How impactful would our lives, our families, and our careers be to God’s kingdom if we exercised this kind of blind, unquestioning faith.
2. My friend’s son sat still in the face of opposition. When hearing this story, another thing that stood out to me was how my friend’s son was sitting when his father arrived. His posture was of an expectant nature! He was not worried. He was not afraid. The thought of not having food did not enter his mind. Even if it did, my friend’s son did not flinch in the face of seeming adversity and opposition. Remember, scripture tells us that when we wait upon the Lord (expectantly) our strength, will, and needs will be renewed. We will be elevated high about like the eagle ready to reign and rule freely.
3. My friend’s son spoke with the authority of his father! When in the classroom, the teacher has the authority. The principal and other administrators also have the authority over the children. However, when my friend’s son said what his father said, the teacher’s authority was trumped. The teacher did not make the phone call because the instructor was told what my friend said to his son. He spoke with authority and conviction!
He spoke without fear, and those who thought they had authority had to yield. They had to acquiesce to the authority of the young man’s father. My friend’s son spoke his father’s words with so much zest and certainty that even the others that had no knowledge of the prior conversation believed. That power and conviction was in the heart of my friend’s son, and just as the Bible says in Luke 6:45, what’s in the heart will come out.
Yes, my 37 year old friend is the teacher and an example for his 7 year old son. But, on that day the son became the teacher. He taught me something as well, and how thankful and grateful I am for the lessons!
From the desk of The Modern Day Cindi: Let’s talk about ways to maintain great intimacy while pregnant, but first let’s start off by debunking the myth that sex during pregnancy is taboo. It isn’t!
As hormones are all the rage, a rump in the sack between spouses may become more frequent as typical concerns such as birth control and pregnancy are no longer major factors with a baby on the way. Yet, many men and women do not look at this as time of just physical intimacy as much as it is a time for emotional closeness and support.
Sex is one of the major draws for marriage and relationship, however during pregnancy, sex may become a delicate situation to manage as physical comfort and emotional needs shift day to day, week to week, or trimester to trimester.
So how do we balance it all without making the sex factor an ex factor? Good News! There are other ways to maintain intimacy without having sex that can add great value to the quality of the relationship, as well as the confidence of your pregnant spouse.
Now nearing the 8th month of pregnancy, I have learned that intimacy can be achieved successfully without intercourse. Pardon the cliché, but intimacy starts in the mind. It is majority mental with physical moments.
Mental stimulation is where the attraction starts and continues. This mental stimulation is what turns into the physical connection that husbands so desire. This stimulation is also what helps builds up the anticipation to those physical moments and ushers in a wife’s willingness to share her mind, body, and soul. So what am I saying? Lovemaking starts in the heart and mind of your spouse and this is even truer during pregnancy.
Here are a few things that make my point plainly:
1. Pregnant Mommy’s want to continue to feel attractive to their husbands so compliment her often. Let her know how beautiful she is! Dote on her not just because she’s your baby momma but because she’s your wife.
2. Remind her that she’s giving you a gift that is a special representation of your love for each other that can’t be duplicated by anyone else. This can be very reassuring as her concern for different aspects of life (personally and professionally) may have her feeling uncomfortable and may even bring a little uncertainty.
3. Share with her in the changes she is going through. Read and study ahead to be aware of her needs and help her adjust (as much as possible) at every stage of her pregnancy.
4. Get uncomfortable with her!
Let her know that she is not alone.I can speak on this from personal experience. The only place I sleep well is on the coach. Sadly, our bed has become a cardinal enemy since early on in my pregnancy, but I found a friend and confidant in the couch. Unfortunately as the sofa became my friend, my long, 6’4 husband relegated himself to the love seat in an act of solidarity and unity and to be as close to me as possible.
Now, I know that does not seem like much, but he has been willing to get uncomfortable for me to show support. And when I gaze over at him on my late night moments, it makes me cuddle up to him even more when he is awake because I know he’s doing it just for me.
It may sound really basic and silly, but again all intimacy does not have to be physical. As a wife, we hold on to these moments of care and compassion. It not only boosts and edifies us, but it also allows the bond of love between you, your husband, and the unborn child grow even more.
M&Y! What are some ways you and your spouse have kept the intimacy alive in your marriage during pregnancy?